Otherwise, it would be like going to an interview for a full-time job when you’re still in school and really have no intention of accepting the job.”—Sondra, 21. “Girls ask me out, and I stand there thinking, ‘Oh, what am I going to do now?
[Box on page 30] A NOTE TO PARENTS The dating issue is certain to be thrust upon your children sooner or later. ’ It’s hard to say no because some of them are very beautiful!
Find out how your son or daughter feels about the challenges he or she faces at school and even in the Christian congregation.
Sometimes such discussions can take place on informal occasions, such as “when you sit in your house and when you walk on the road.” (Deuteronomy 6:6, 7) Whatever the setting, remember to be “swift about hearing, slow about speaking.”—James .
▪ You see a boy and girl holding hands as they stroll down the school corridor between classes. □ Don’t care □ Slightly jealous □ Completely envious ▪ You’re at the movies with friends when you realize that everyone is paired off—except you! □ Don’t care □ Slightly jealous □ Completely envious ▪ Your best friend has recently begun showing interest in a member of the opposite sex and is now dating. □ Don’t care □ Slightly jealous □ Completely envious If you checked “slightly jealous” or “completely envious” in response to any of the above questions, you are not alone.
” If your teen knows that dating is not even up for discussion, something tragic may happen: He or she may drive the relationship underground and date secretly.
“When parents overreact,” says one girl, “it only makes kids want to hide the relationship more. They just get sneakier.” You will get far better results by having frank discussions.
▪ At what age do you think it is appropriate for a youth to start dating?
․․․․․ ▪ Now ask one or both of your parents the same question, and fill in their answer.
That would just lead to hurt feelings.”—Chelsea, 17.