Some of the questions folks ask here are huge—how does one deal with an abusive family, how does one recover from a personal violation or an act of violence—and some of them are on a much smaller scale.
It makes me feel scared and offended—is she not satisfied by me? I know how ridiculous that may sound, but it’s just a fear and I don’t know how to handle this. You don’t have to open with “we haven’t used this vibrator together and now I’m anxious about whether you want to have sex with me or might cheat,” but she may very well have no idea that this has brought up so many feelings of insecurity and anxiety for you.I just want to tell people to get over themselves and be happy and grateful that the only problems they are facing are those.They have food, water, and a warm and dry place to sleep. I know that we’ll get through this and the petty stuff will again be important someday, but right now reading some of the questions in your column just makes me want to punch people. A: I’m so sorry to hear about the destruction to your home, and I’m glad to hear that your son is somewhere safe.I hope very much that you are able to access all the help that you need to rebuild.This may sound flippant, but I can assure you that I mean this sincerely: If reading the column right now makes you want to punch people, give yourself the gift of taking a break from reading this column!If you would prefer not to kneel, you can simply stand for a moment or two of silence, then drop back. However, it’s been a couple months and we haven’t used it together once.