Among other things, our sex life was bland and we had infrequent sex at best. He says he's open to my terms—open/fuck-buddy situation—but things have quickly become relationship-ish.Now I want to experiment, explore nonmonogamy, and have crazy and fulfilling sex with whoever tickles my fancy. I like him, but I can't realistically picture us being a good LTR match. Hoping Open Peaceful Experiences Feel Unlike Loss If "someone might get hurt" is the standard you're going to apply to all future relationships—if it's a deal breaker—then you shouldn't date or fuck anyone else ever again, HOPEFUL, because there's always a chance someone is going to get hurt.But there's no intimate human connection, sexual or otherwise, that doesn't leave us open to hurting or being hurt.So fuck this guy, HOPEFUL, on your own terms—but don't be too quick to dismiss the possibility of an LTR.The weird thing is, the only guys I can find to spank are straight. Seriously Perplexed And Needing Knowledge How do you know their new girlfriends don't start spanking them when you stop?It's not that they're closeted—most of them go on to have girlfriends, and that's when we stop—and they make it clear they don't want anything sexual to happen. And how do you know they aren't closing their eyes and imagining that you're a woman when you're spanking them?And how do you know they're not bi—at least where spankings are concerned?
And if you do want to explore bondage, take precautions.Anytime anyone—top or bottom—wants to rush into a power-exchange scene, that's a red flag. A good-quality connection with any potential playmate is achieved only through communication.If they are not interested in doing the legwork, they're not the right person for you." Follow Metal on Twitter @Metalbond NYC, follow Amp @Pup_Amp, and follow Ruff @Ruffs Stuff Blog.Never get tied up in your own home by someone you don't know.If you go to his or her place, always tell a trusted friend where you are going.If you can have this guy and have your sexual adventures, too—this could be the start of something big.